Toasting: The concise guide!
(Print & give to the best man / maid of honor)
Toasting is an art that can be traced to the beginning
of time itself. It was a practice during the Stuart period to put
a piece of toast in a glass of wine, with the belief that improved
the flavor of the wine (now that is too literal). The Greeks &
Romans drank to their gods at ceremonies, and the members of the
middle temple (in Great Britain) drank to the health of Princess
Elizabeth by standing up one after another, pledging their loyalty,
and swearing to die in her service. In other words, a toast is
drinking to the health & happiness of the person/s we are honoring
at the time of the toast!
First, if you were chosen to give the toast, then
you are an important part of that event. If you are the best man
or maid/matron of honor in a bridal party, or if you are the best
friend to the guest of honor, you are expected to give a toast.
It is an honor to have or be given the opportunity to give a toast.
You must realize how much you mean to the couple or guest of honor
you are toasting to. A few pointers on making a successful toast.........
The Speaking in Public Part: Public speaking is the
second biggest fear most people have. The reason - Your fear
of ridicule from your audience, and perceived lack of ability
to communicate effectively. Public speaking does not come naturally
for most people, so this is your one and only major hurdle in
the art of giving toasts. The truth is, if you screw up in front
of 200 people, you look like a fool (in your own eyes) but most
people will not care, infact when you screw up, own up to it and
improvise. Some people look away from the crowd, some people cry
while giving a toast, others compose their toast, and then read
that from a piece of paper, and the ones who do not have a fear
of public speaking, have pointers on a piece of paper, or make
it up as they go and improvise their toast. No matter how
you choose to deal with this responsibility, remember, you have
to deal with it, by giving a toast.
- The Preparation & Ingredients of the Toast: I have
always found it easier to write things down and follow a pattern
that I am comfortable with. Start with a draft, write down all your
ideas on a piece of paper, and then follow the format below. A concise
short toast is better than a long winded toast.
- The Do Not List: These are some things I have seen some
people do that would be tacky, insulting, or inappropriate.
- The Delivery & Timing of the toast:
- Most times, you are informed when the toast is scheduled in
the itinerary of the reception. I recommend delivering your
toast right after the blessing for the meal (after people have
taken a seat, and are ready for the meal).
- Prior to finaly delivery, I would recommend going over your
toast one last time, and calming your self down before the toast.
Have a drink to calm down your nerves if you have an aversion
to public speaking.
- Get the attention of your audience and make sure the majority
is listening to your toast.
- Proceed with your toast, and make sure you don't make it too
- Don't forget to raise the champagne glass, have the bride
& groom kiss (if it is a wedding).......
- Sit, and then enjoy your evening. The hard part is over.
The Order of toasts at a wedding reception:
- Toast to the Bride & Groom from the Best Man, Maid/Matron
of Honor or both.
- Toast to the Bride & Groom from the Father of the Bride &
word of thanks to the guests
- A General word of thanks from the Bride & Groom to the wedding
party, parents & guests.
- Time for close friends or family members to make a couple of toasts.